Frequently asked questions
1. Why isn't my ad up yet?
Your ad (profile) is approved before
becoming visible to others. this takes up to a maximum of 24
hours but is usually less than 15 minutes. Currently the
profiles are approved by me and an admin team employed to
look after the approvals 24x7.
2. I'm new to swinging, how do I get into
the scene?
the best way to get into the scene is to
answer an ad or post your own. that's what this site is all
about! As this question often comes from single males let me
offer some direct advice to that group - try answering ads
first in the Couples for males section - always be polite -
send full photographs, cock shots may not get you as many
responses. If at first you don't succeed - try, try again.
If someone says they are going to the Bermuda triangle for
an extended holiday take the hint and move on to the next
ad. For more information click on the "New Swinger?" link at
the top of this page.
3. David; how do I get to meet you/have
my picture taken with you?
Single women and couples - send me your
photos first! One of my other hobbies - travel - often means
I am out of email contact, so if I don't respond right away
do not be offended - I may simply be out of town. I like to
play with ladies who are keen, active participants. I am at
ease with husbands/boyfriends being there to watch, take
pictures or to join in. there are more details of my likes
etc on my bio page, and in the sample ad.
Men - I am flattered by the attention but
I am STRAIGHT - please do not waste your time and proceed
directly to Males for males section.
4. I'll be in Town on x night. How do I
get a really beautiful girl?
I cannot guarantee action to anyone - not
even myself! You have four options here -
1. use some foresight and planning and
answer some ads a few weeks before your trip to arrange a
meeting
2. visit a swing club during your visit
3. put a posting on the forum - you may
get lucky
4. call an escort
If anyone has additional ideas/options on
this theme let me know.
5. How does one get started as an escort?
Other than placing the ads I have little
contact with escorts. I encourage you to contact them
directly. Remember these are professionals whose time and
expertise are valuable and treat them accordingly.
6. How do I start my own adult site?
First, you will need to give up all your
other hobbies and interests. Maintaining a site is a lot of
work which doesn"t leave much time for other things.
Remember that if you create a site that people like, they
will be very demanding, and keep asking for more content.
For general information, my server is a
dedicated rack in the USA. I use FrontPage to create the
pages, and an 8mb broadband connection to upload
everything.
If you want to go ahead and build one,
there are many excellent tutorials on website building
available through any search engine on the web.
I will also build you websites go to
http://www.ddproductions.co.uk for more details.
7. I will be in the City on x day. Please
send me details of clubs/parties.
All the information I have on house
parties and commercial clubs is on the site "Clubs
and Parties". If you have details about clubs or
parties in your area please send them to me and I will add
them to the site.
8. Please introduce me to Jane/Sue/Lynn
etc.
I do not do personal introductions except
between people I know, and who I think may get on well
together.
9. David, I have had no responses to my
ad - or no one responds to my emails.
this site is a free resource for
swingers. No one is a member, so I have no means by which to
"make" people respond to ads or to mails sent in response to
an ad.
Men please be aware - couples and ladies
who advertise for men get so many responses it is impossible
for them to respond to all of them - To try and understand
the problem I have been talking to a few of the new
advertisers. they have told me that the response rate has
been in excess of 500 emails a week. this means that to read
the responses alone takes a very long time. If it takes one
minute to read each mail, it takes more than eight hours to
read 500 mails, and replying to them, even at 30 seconds a
mail takes more than four hours. Emails with pictures slow
the process down, especially when you send them at high
resolution (greater than 96dpi) and/or where the image is
very large - greater than a maximum of 600x400 (this is
plenty large enough to let people see you - greater
resolution and size is only needed when you want to print a
picture).
Don't respond to ads where you do not fit
the criteria of the advertiser. You are wasting their time,
your time, and clogging up the internet with hundreds of
pointless emails.
Please read the etiquette section to be
found on the links above.
10. David, is my email link working?.
Yes. I cannot force people to reply, but
your mail has reached them, and if they have tried to
respond their mail will be in one of your in boxes inside
your profile.
11. Can you tell me where to find:
-
a turkish/swedish/dominant escort? -
check my ad listings, or some of the links to other escort
boards. I do not have time to browse the internet very
often, when I do, I am not looking for escorts.
-
a discreet hotel in London/Paris where
I can take my girlfriend? - use a search engine and look for hotels+cityname.
12. My wife/husband is not keen on the
idea of swinging, how can I persuade her/him?
You cannot without risking your marriage,
talk about it, but don't push it. If it is not something you
both want to do, don't do it - it will end in tears.
13. What is acceptable content?
It is easier to say what is not
acceptable: this is my list, not a legal requirement
No Children to be involved (a person
under the legal age of consent) in any sex act or
picture. (If I think a person looks under age I will ask
for picture id (a passport) as proof of age/identity) No animals to be involved. No violence - beyond mild bondage/spanking. No pix of scatt. No mention of Rape or sex under duress
I will always reserve the right to pull
any ad that I do not think fits in with the tone of the
site.
14. What does ac/dc, bdsm, etc. mean?
Have a look at the "Terminology" page listed on the menu
to the right
15. What do I do at a swinging party?
Have a look at the information on the
"Etiquette" page listed on menu above.
16. Why don't you have a chat room?
I have now got excellent text and video chat rooms
integrated in the ads system.
17. David, can I buy you a beer?
Yes please - mine's a pint of Stella ;)).
or as that's hard to come by here in Spain a large San Miguel.
created
last revised:
thanks to a young lady in America for
creating this page, and preparing most of the content for
me.
And thanks to Hils in France for her
grammar corrections.
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