Swingers Lifestyle Party Etiquette

Etiquette for Swingers clubs and parties

Relax & Get Acquainted

When at an on-premise swingers club or swing house party, you are there to have the best of times and to share the uninhibited enjoyment associated with those who have discovered a new dimension in their lifestyles. Once you have become familiar with the surroundings and staff members or host/hostess, try to become as at ease as you would be at any other social gathering. Don't hesitate to introduce yourselves to other guests. You'll find them eager to welcome you and to help you blend into their circle of sincere camaraderie.

Some Tips on Etiquette

While you are advised to be congenial and outgoing, don't be "pushy". Many couples who are new to "swinging" often have unrealistic expectations and are not prepared to handle rejections that may sometimes occur. Freshly showered, perfumed, and neatly dressed people make more contacts. Don't let your personal physical idiosyncrasies stop you from having a good time. No one is perfect [although it is common for new "swingers" to see others as more attractive or more verbal than themselves]. Don't let your own mind be your worst enemy. Be prepared to handle rejection but don't take it personally.

It is important to remember that PERSONAL CHOICE is the right of every individual and to 'respect that right' is only common courtesy. Learn how to accept "no thank you" graciously. Your approach -- which should be the same as it would be at any social setting -- is a key factor to your acceptance as a desirable partner/friend.

There are several variations to "swinging" and it is important that you and your mate decide, in advance, those which you like and dislike. Some couples prefer to be alone, while others prefer to be with other couples. Establish your own ground rules, but please decide on them BEFORE you start "swinging".

Join the Conversation

Some people will probably "break the ice" by introducing themselves, along with other couples they know. It's their way of making you feel at home. Feel free to join their conversation and you'll find that most of them will be happy to answer any questions you may have about the "swinging" lifestyle. Be open and honest. Tell them that you are new to "swinging" and you'll discover how helpful people can be.

Start off on the right foot

On your first venture into the swinging scene, you may feel somewhat uneasy about seeing your mate with someone else. Some "swingers" want to share swinging with their mate and feel uneasy having their mate leave to another room with someone. Everyone has their own reasons for their feelings and all feelings are real and should be respected. To avoid embarrassment or disillusionment, discuss your inhibitions with your mate beforehand. Both of you may be more comfortable after talking to other couples and learning how they handled their first "swinging" session.

Basically everyone is represented in the lifestyle, from across every profession and every race and every religion, from 18 through to people in their 80's.

Discrimination in Swinging

Most swingers do not discriminate against others on grounds of age, color, religion or class. However everyone has the right to choose who they do or do not play with, as if there is no attraction there will be no enjoyment.

These days most swingers accept that most if not all the females will be bi-sexual, while more clubs are accepting male bi-sexuals as well.

People with physical disabilities enjoy swinging too. Over the years we have had guests who are confined to a wheelchair, people who are blind and people missing limbs attend our parties. They are always accepted and I have seen them involved in the thick of the action.

How widespread is Swinging?

Professional research carried out in 2005 suggests that a quarter of the adult population of the UK are now involved in swinging! Swinging in the USA is almost certain to be of similar or greater proportions. Factors such as use of internet contact sites and swingers clubs suggest that most European and American countries have an even larger percentage of swingers than the UK. Per head of population there are more swinger clubs in every major European country and in the USA and Canada. There are also more people registered on swingers sites per head of population than in the UK.

Since we started running swingers sites in 1997 we have seen the numbers increasing rapidly throughout Europe, America and Australia. Since 2010 we have also seen a steady increase in numbers from the Indian sub continent and Pacific ring countries. 2011 saw a big surge in swingers coming online from countries such as Egypt, Jordan and Tunisia as access to the internet was opened up and censorship lifted.

The main definitions of Swingers are people who;

• enjoy having sex with other people as well as, and along with, their regular partner .
• enjoy watching their partner have sex with someone else (better known as a voyeur).
• enjoy sharing their fantasies with their partner and other people.
• enjoy having sex with lots of people (greedy girls such as JoJo your hostess).
• enjoy going to swingers parties, hundreds of which are held every day, have a look at www.clubsandParties.com for one of the most complete listings of swingers clubs and parties on the web.

The main criteria for being a swinger

Is that you are open and honest with yourself, your regular partner and the people you meet.